It's funny that whenever I hear my wife talk about other people in the infertility area I always hear her talk in the well its male factor or female factor. Whoever came up with this saying obviously does not have feelings. I understand that I am the sole reason that we are in this mess, however male factor could possibly be just as bad as saying, "you suck!" I have no problem telling people that I am infertile, but for some reason whenever I hear male factor I wanna scream.
Last night, we went in for my pre-op for my Testicular mapping and if you think it sounds bad, well it does. 18 needles mapping out each testicle?!?!? I'm still uncomfortable grooming! Well that was not the point that shocked us the most last night. I feel bad because I kind of snapped at Stace last night because we asked the question of, "if there are any sperm found, do you freeze them and we can use them?" to which our guy stated no! He then went on to say it would be another 3-6 months before we could use them. The look on Stace's face was that she did not want to wait another 3-6 months and I shot her that, "are you kidding me?" look. It's not her fault though because I first thought it too as soon as he said it. Then my thoughts went in and said well I can wait another 3-6 months if there is a possibility to utilize my sperm. By all means, we want to be parents and we want everything to be about us, however we also have realized that it's okay if it has to be with a donor because as I have said in the previous post, it's still is my kid. So yeah, if they find some it will be another 3-6 months to figure out if we can utilize those swimmers.
Another shocking part was that last night we had to pay over $3k for the procedure, something that we were not expecting. Well, last month I sold all of my stock and put some money aside to put into our Baby Fund. I am just happy that we have the money to pay for this procedure because we were not expecting that, but since I went $23k into credit card debt when I was younger, I have always made sure that I have enough money to take care of anything. Oh and I paid back all but about $5k of that debt because my dad bailed me out for our wedding gift and put me on a strict payment plan to pay him back---Thanks Dad! So I said to Stace, why would the Dr. not submit this procedure to insurance? Every other visit they did? I am pretty good with money and knowing what to do with it, however when it comes to what to do with insurance and how to submit procedures and what is covered and what is not----I have no clue what to do. We know that IVF is not covered but some say IUI is covered. However, do I call the insurance company and say I have a sperm mapping procedure to be done and I was charged this, do you cover it? I need an advisor to help me with this money...Oh wait that would cost more money?!?!? Why do some states mandate the insurance companies to pay for infertility and why do some insurance carriers provide it but some do not??? It seems unrealistic, its not like I decided I want to be infertile. For something that is effecting so many people, why would the insurance companies not pay for it?? Its funny to me too that there is adoption assistance built into our insurance plan but trying to have the baby on your own----your on your own????
Sorry this is just my rambling and I am sure that some get it and others are like what???? I tend to understand both sides and give everyone a shot at explaining their sides and what they bring to the table, but in the insurance world and my fight to have a baby, it seems like I am in a losing battle on all fronts! You're infertile-time to do tests(meaning time for lots of money to be spent). You're still infertile after making love to plastic cups over and over again(btw I am 30, grew up in the 90's and 00's, I am not about 70's & 80's culture of material!)--More money...You're still infertile, now you are going to be a pin cushion----lots more money....You're still infertile---insurance isn't going to cover anything----more money. Compared to the other side, "hey I think we made a mistake and we are pregnant," its okay the insurance will pay for pretty much every doctor visit and every hospital stay and when you see that bill and you have to pay $1000 for all of it, thank you for having a baby the natural way, even if you were not trying.
I said this to a lot of people at work lately, "how much is your time worth?" This was in relation to getting the sale item for Black Friday weekend, but really how much is it? For me, to have my own baby, I will continue to spend money and after waiting now for almost two years and lots of bills to be in the same place that I was two years ago, its a lot of money. My happiness is worth whatever I have to spend on it, because my happiness is being able to have a baby with my beautiful wife, that we have been dreaming about ever since we got married. We waited until we were set with our jobs and house. We did the right thing and did not rush into it. Now all we want is to have a baby and be able to come home and take care of it. Crying-who cares. Dirty diapers-bring it on. Spitting up-don't mind if I do. Baby smell---makes everything worth it. Baby falling asleep in your arms---makes you feel as if you are not even there. Having someone to call you mommy and daddy-they can never do anything wrong. I just want to be able to have these moments and in 4 weeks we will find out if we have to wait another 3-6 months or if we can start in a month! Either way, I am ready and I can't wait!
Tuesday, December 3, 2013
Saturday, November 30, 2013
Origami Owl
Some background into the Origami Owl company, and why I decided to join the team.
What is Origami Owl?
~Origami Owl is a jewelry company that was started a few years ago by a teenage girl, Bella, who wanted a car. Her parents encouraged her to save her babysitting money and come up with an idea of how to make money. She created the idea of Living Lockets, sold it at a mall kiosk, and it was an instant hit! Isabella earned enough to buy her car, and now she is a multi-millionaire due to her extremely unique idea. Origami Owl is most known for its Living Lockets, glass-window lockets in which you place charms that describe things close to your heart... charms that share your life story, and things you love, with the world. They sell necklaces and bracelets, and not just lockets. Their jewelry is customizable and rarely are 2 lockets created exactly the same; but if they were, that would be a pretty neat conversation starter!
~Origami Owl is all about sharing stories through jewelry. It's all completely customizable and unique. The hard part is narrowing down all the fun options to display your story. Their mission statement is "OUR MISSION IS TO BE A FORCE FOR GOOD; TO LOVE, INSPIRE + MOTIVATE PEOPLE OF ALL AGES TO REACH THEIR DREAMS + EMPOWER THEM TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE LIVES OF OTHERS". Some of their famous quotes, "You tell stories with words. We tell stories with jewelry.... Every locket tells a story...What's yours?"
Where did Origami Owl get its name?
~No, the jewelry is not made of paper and doesn't resemble origami. Bella had always loved origami, and her lockets represent origami in that no 2 are alike: each person/locket folds in its own unique way, with their own characteristics. Owls represent wisdom, strength, and courage... the two names together make a strong and unique company name!
How can I buy Origami Owl products?
~Origami Owl is not sold in stores. It's a direct-sales company, so you can only buy/order from the company itself, or through one of its "Independent Designers" (aka consultants/sales reps), like myself. (wink, wink!)
You can shop/order from my direct site: www.wishuponastar.origamiowl.com
How do I host a party?
~Hosting a party ("jewelry bar" as O2 calls it!) is easy and fun! It's a great excuse to have people over for a fun girls' night in! Simply contact your local rep (who may be me! I do local parties, but willing to travel a bit for close fam/friends!) and set up a date. All you have to do is supply a guest list, supply some goodies for your guests, and start thinking about what items you want with your hostess rewards. Hostess rewards are determined by the amount of sales brought in by your party (either direct sales at your party, or orders made online to your direct party link). The more sales that come in for your party means more free and discounted products for you! It's really that simple! I hosted a party and ended up getting over $250 worth of items for free! There are also special monthly hostess exclusives available only to those who host a party... Excuse to party, time with your girlfriends, and free jewelry? What are you waiting for?! <3
What does Origami Owl mean to me?
~Since Origami Owl is all about sharing personal stories and what means the most in our lives, I wanted to share my story. I first learned about O2 last year when I went to a jewelry bar with Alli, at her friend's house. I instantly fell in love with the company and the whole concept of building your own locket. I realized right away that O2 was different from other direct sale companies because I wasn't just browsing the catalog and selecting an item I liked. I was exploring the catalog and selecting items that had meaning to me... things that described me and shared my loves, interests, and life experiences. Anyone who knows me well knows that I am super indecisive on a lot of things in life... so giving me a catalog of endless options and no simple thing to choose from is pretty silly in a sense. I would have needed to study the catalog a week in advance to really choose something perfect, but somehow I pulled it together within an hour at the party. Of course I loved EVERYTHING, but also didn't want to spend an arm and a leg, and I knew I could easily add on in the future. So in an effort to start simple (yes, me... imagine that!), I selected the following for my 1st O2 purchase: a silver chain, a large silver locket, a silver word plate that says "BELIEVE", a glitterly butterfly charm, and a glittery star charm. That's it. No color, and not too much bling off the bat. Just simply 2 things I love~ butterflies and stars, and one of my absolute favorite words~ believe.
~I felt these things described me because they are things I love, but they also describe our journey with infertility. At the time, I didn't yet know that Scott was infertile. At that point, we had only been trying just under a year, so there was no medical assistance thrown into the mix yet. It was just heartache and aggravation. But immediately it shared my story with those who were curious. Naturally, some of the people started talking about what they were selecting and why, so I went that route too. Believe has always been a favorite word of mine (well, in the last few years anyway... I've always been a believer in all things magical, whimsical, and what's meant to be). I believe in positivity and I believe in happy endings. I believe goodness will overcome darkness, and I believe Scott & I will become parents some day. I believe in true love, and I believe in miracles. I believe we will come out stronger and happier on the other end of this obstacle in our amazing race to a baby. I believe, I believe, I BELIEVE. <3
~Knowing the story of my 1st locket brings me to where I am with O2 today. Ever since that party, I've had an interest in the company, but didn't do anything with it. This past summer, I ran into a few O2 reps at a local vendor show in my town, and I signed up to show interest in hosting a party. Fast forward a few months and after having the party and talking to the rep, I realized it was a fun and "easy" way (on the outside! haha) of making some extra money on the side, and meeting some fun people as well. Since we are nervously approaching the world of IVF and crazy fertility treatment bills (just at a CHANCE to get pregnant), I've been getting nervous about bank account funds. We currently have enough set aside for one round of IVF meds and procedures, but I'm cautiously optimistic. I want to be positive but I am also well aware that it doesn't always work on the first try (even though that would be nice!). So if we need more than 1 round, we will need to come up with some funds with assistance. I know some couples have started fundraising sites, are selling t-shirts, and having fundraising events, but I just personally don't feel comfortable going that route just yet. Part of the reason I joined O2 was to use it as a side job in the hopes of bringing in a little extra money on the side. That way, customers are donating without really doing it directly. They get a product out of it, and I'm working for it. I make a certain commission based off sales, so that money will be put aside strictly for a Team Ricci baby fund. I'm working for the money, getting paid indirectly, and customers receive beautiful products that have true meaning to them.
~From the second my O2 starter kit arrived, I knew it was THE perfect company for me. First off, their signature color is Tiffany blue... which was our main color scheme for our wedding. Our bridal party wore that color and it was on anything and everything at the wedding. Second, the box was covered in cute little sayings and quotes... another thing I am ALL about. Friends have joked that our house is like a Shutterfly photo book because there are so many pictures to look at and quotes to read. I have a zillion quote decals and framed sayings around our house. So seeing cute little quotes on the box and in my designer book just sucked me right in, made me smile, and reassured me that I made a good choice. The company is different from the norm, and so am I. They're all about pretty colors, fun quotes, and everything happy, cute, and positive... I mean, really... I think I'm a good match for this company and their beliefs. I'm all about positivity, in case you couldn't tell! <3
~Once I joined, my mentor told me that it would be a good idea to start a Facebook business page... but I also needed to create a personal page too, in order to access all the resources on our team page. I was not super thrilled about this because I decided to separate myself completely from FB in the summer of 2012 and I was super happy without it. So the thought of going back was kind of repulsing to me. Once I got the hang of it again (thankfully refraining from throwing the Mac on the floor because I was so frustrated at the logistics of the site and all that's changed since I was last on), I created a business page, https://www.facebook.com/OrigamiOwlStacyRicciIndependentDesigner, where I post sample locket ideas, quotes, helpful tips, ideas, and more. On my personal page, I really am trying to focus on just using it to interact with my design team and to access company resources. I honestly have no interest in getting sucked back into multiple drama avenues on there, so I'm hiding all posts on the homepage in order to keep away. Being in Germany last summer and away from all contact for a week was a nice wakeup call in a lot of ways, and I have no interest in going back on to just feel left out of things or be dragged into pointless drama from various social circles. No offense to anyone out there, but not trying to be on there as me, just trying to be on there for business purposes. I'd rather interact with people on the business page side of FB than have friend requests on the personal page. I do have to say, the business part is fun. There are a lot of great O2 pic ideas out there, so trying to share for ideas to spark creativity while trying to build/design your own.
So, what are you waiting for? If you haven't already, check out my shopping link & FB business page. From either, you can place an order or get ideas. If you're stuck on something, shoot me an email for some design or ordering input. Happy shopping! Get out and create (or add to!) your story today! <3
www.wishuponastar.origamiowl.com
https://www.facebook.com/OrigamiOwlStacyRicciIndependentDesigner
~Since Origami Owl is all about sharing personal stories and what means the most in our lives, I wanted to share my story. I first learned about O2 last year when I went to a jewelry bar with Alli, at her friend's house. I instantly fell in love with the company and the whole concept of building your own locket. I realized right away that O2 was different from other direct sale companies because I wasn't just browsing the catalog and selecting an item I liked. I was exploring the catalog and selecting items that had meaning to me... things that described me and shared my loves, interests, and life experiences. Anyone who knows me well knows that I am super indecisive on a lot of things in life... so giving me a catalog of endless options and no simple thing to choose from is pretty silly in a sense. I would have needed to study the catalog a week in advance to really choose something perfect, but somehow I pulled it together within an hour at the party. Of course I loved EVERYTHING, but also didn't want to spend an arm and a leg, and I knew I could easily add on in the future. So in an effort to start simple (yes, me... imagine that!), I selected the following for my 1st O2 purchase: a silver chain, a large silver locket, a silver word plate that says "BELIEVE", a glitterly butterfly charm, and a glittery star charm. That's it. No color, and not too much bling off the bat. Just simply 2 things I love~ butterflies and stars, and one of my absolute favorite words~ believe.
~I felt these things described me because they are things I love, but they also describe our journey with infertility. At the time, I didn't yet know that Scott was infertile. At that point, we had only been trying just under a year, so there was no medical assistance thrown into the mix yet. It was just heartache and aggravation. But immediately it shared my story with those who were curious. Naturally, some of the people started talking about what they were selecting and why, so I went that route too. Believe has always been a favorite word of mine (well, in the last few years anyway... I've always been a believer in all things magical, whimsical, and what's meant to be). I believe in positivity and I believe in happy endings. I believe goodness will overcome darkness, and I believe Scott & I will become parents some day. I believe in true love, and I believe in miracles. I believe we will come out stronger and happier on the other end of this obstacle in our amazing race to a baby. I believe, I believe, I BELIEVE. <3
~Knowing the story of my 1st locket brings me to where I am with O2 today. Ever since that party, I've had an interest in the company, but didn't do anything with it. This past summer, I ran into a few O2 reps at a local vendor show in my town, and I signed up to show interest in hosting a party. Fast forward a few months and after having the party and talking to the rep, I realized it was a fun and "easy" way (on the outside! haha) of making some extra money on the side, and meeting some fun people as well. Since we are nervously approaching the world of IVF and crazy fertility treatment bills (just at a CHANCE to get pregnant), I've been getting nervous about bank account funds. We currently have enough set aside for one round of IVF meds and procedures, but I'm cautiously optimistic. I want to be positive but I am also well aware that it doesn't always work on the first try (even though that would be nice!). So if we need more than 1 round, we will need to come up with some funds with assistance. I know some couples have started fundraising sites, are selling t-shirts, and having fundraising events, but I just personally don't feel comfortable going that route just yet. Part of the reason I joined O2 was to use it as a side job in the hopes of bringing in a little extra money on the side. That way, customers are donating without really doing it directly. They get a product out of it, and I'm working for it. I make a certain commission based off sales, so that money will be put aside strictly for a Team Ricci baby fund. I'm working for the money, getting paid indirectly, and customers receive beautiful products that have true meaning to them.
~From the second my O2 starter kit arrived, I knew it was THE perfect company for me. First off, their signature color is Tiffany blue... which was our main color scheme for our wedding. Our bridal party wore that color and it was on anything and everything at the wedding. Second, the box was covered in cute little sayings and quotes... another thing I am ALL about. Friends have joked that our house is like a Shutterfly photo book because there are so many pictures to look at and quotes to read. I have a zillion quote decals and framed sayings around our house. So seeing cute little quotes on the box and in my designer book just sucked me right in, made me smile, and reassured me that I made a good choice. The company is different from the norm, and so am I. They're all about pretty colors, fun quotes, and everything happy, cute, and positive... I mean, really... I think I'm a good match for this company and their beliefs. I'm all about positivity, in case you couldn't tell! <3
~Once I joined, my mentor told me that it would be a good idea to start a Facebook business page... but I also needed to create a personal page too, in order to access all the resources on our team page. I was not super thrilled about this because I decided to separate myself completely from FB in the summer of 2012 and I was super happy without it. So the thought of going back was kind of repulsing to me. Once I got the hang of it again (thankfully refraining from throwing the Mac on the floor because I was so frustrated at the logistics of the site and all that's changed since I was last on), I created a business page, https://www.facebook.com/OrigamiOwlStacyRicciIndependentDesigner, where I post sample locket ideas, quotes, helpful tips, ideas, and more. On my personal page, I really am trying to focus on just using it to interact with my design team and to access company resources. I honestly have no interest in getting sucked back into multiple drama avenues on there, so I'm hiding all posts on the homepage in order to keep away. Being in Germany last summer and away from all contact for a week was a nice wakeup call in a lot of ways, and I have no interest in going back on to just feel left out of things or be dragged into pointless drama from various social circles. No offense to anyone out there, but not trying to be on there as me, just trying to be on there for business purposes. I'd rather interact with people on the business page side of FB than have friend requests on the personal page. I do have to say, the business part is fun. There are a lot of great O2 pic ideas out there, so trying to share for ideas to spark creativity while trying to build/design your own.
So, what are you waiting for? If you haven't already, check out my shopping link & FB business page. From either, you can place an order or get ideas. If you're stuck on something, shoot me an email for some design or ordering input. Happy shopping! Get out and create (or add to!) your story today! <3
www.wishuponastar.origamiowl.com
https://www.facebook.com/OrigamiOwlStacyRicciIndependentDesigner
Monday, November 18, 2013
Hoot, Hoot!
I bit the bullet and joined the consultant/designer team tonight! I've been in touch with the designer who did my party, Lindsey, and was excited about the idea of joining, so jumped right in! I'm super excited to represent this company and share my story with others, while helping them to create custom jewelry that fits their own unique stories. You get to pick your own name for your personal corner of the site, and I chose Wish Upon a Star... Stars are bright, they sparkle, guide you through darkness, and you can wish upon them. I thought that fit me pretty well, huge dork that I am! Plus, it's a Disney reference of course! <3
The best part.... I have my 1st party booked already!! My friend, Kortney, signed up to host a party, and Lindsey passed it on to me as my 1st one (thanks!)... so in 2 weeks I'm jumping in head first for my official launch! Ahh!! :) :) Scott won't be too thrilled with this part, but it means I get to do a little shopping! A successful seller needs cute accessories to spiff up and decorate her display table! So if you know of any cute owl-themed accessories/decorations/etc, send the info my way! I'm always looking for a good bargain (and super cute stuff!).
What is Origami Owl?
If you're not familiar with the Origami Owl jewelry line, here's a little background. No, it is not jewelry made from paper, and no it does not resemble origami, and it's not all about owls. Found from a compilation of different sites from a Google search,...
"Two years ago, 14-year-old Isabella "Bella" Weems told her parents she wanted a car for her 16th birthday. Her parents made a deal with her. If she wanted to create a business and earn the money, they would match her investment. With $350 in babysitting earnings and $350 from her parents, she invested in some clear lockets. She called them Living Lockets. Customers could customize by choosing charms to place inside the lockets. Weems named her business Origami Owl and got to work designing and selling lockets and sharing her goal with others."
Origami Owl is most known for their lockets... but they also sell regular necklaces/charms, and just launched a bracelet version of the lockets. No two necklaces are the same, as you choose what tells your story and what speaks to you. You could essentially buy one locket with different charms and mix/match with different outfits or seasons. The possibilities are endless and it's a fun way to let your creativity shine.
Where does the name Origami Owl come from?
"Founder Bella Weems has always loved origami. She's had it hanging from her ceiling since she was a little girl. It's a perfect representation of the lockets. Each person folds in their own way, so all have unique characteristics. That's the signature of Origami Owl jewelry. No two are exactly alike. Owls represent wisdom, strength, and courage. When they put the name Origami Owl together, Bella and her mom, Co-Founder Chrissy Weems, loved the way it sounded. They loved the meaning even more."
If you're interested in buying, contact me for details about my direct shopping link! :)
xoxo
Sunday, November 17, 2013
Random Babblings
Hi everyone!
Lots of random things to post about today. I'll TRY to make them short and sweet (stop laughing because you know me all-too-well... At least the intention was there!) ha! :)
~*Love, Support, and Gratitude*~
First off, thank you to everyone who read Scott's blog post and showed some love and support. It was a big step for him and I'm very proud of him for writing and getting that all out. We laughed because his post had more hits on our blog than any of mine! Go, Scoot!! haha... show off. The second cool thing is that his post happened to be the 27th post on here and that's one of our all-time favorite numbers (because our dating anniversary is 2/7.... and I'm all about hidden messages and meanings in numbers with us). Pretty cool coincidence I thought. So again, thank you all for the support.
*You can subscribe to our blog and receive email updates whenever we post something. As long as you're viewing this from a computer (or at least the web-version while on your phone/tablet), there's a button on the right-hand side somewhere (I'll try to make it more obvious and move it closer to the top) where you can simply enter your email address and you will automatically be linked to receive email notifications when new posts are up.
It essentially looks like this!!...
I'm starting to realize through different family members and friends that we have a lot of followers out there (I am EXTREMELY GRATEFUL to you ALL!! Thank you so so so SOOO much for taking the time to read anything on here, even if it's been one post and that's it. It truly means a lot to me/us.). It shocks me and fills my heart each time I realize someone has read this. I guess I assumed no one was interested in what we had to say, and I'd just be blabbing to the world wide web. That's fine and dandy too because I started this as an interactive journal anyway, with the thought that my mom would be the only one reading every word... Although she does do just that (thanks, Ma!), I really can't express how much it means when I hear that different cousins, family friends, or old college/childhood friends have been following, and I had no idea! Thank you so much, and love you all! More importantly, thank you for not judging. This journey has been (and still is) very difficult for us, and we may be approaching it differently than you would, but that's ok. That's what makes us all different and unique. I understand and respect that many people would not choose to share everything with the public, but for us this has worked so far and has helped me on so many emotional levels.
*You can leave comments on any post (I think!). When I re-designed the whole blog layout last week, I realized it was only previously open to those with Google/Blogger accounts to comment. Ooops! I changed it so now anyone can comment, no accounts or sign-ins required. If you have accounts with certain companies, it'll allow you to comment that way still... but for many of you that don't (a lot of my family), you can simply leave your comment at the end of any blog post. There's a link about comments that you can click on and leave a message. After typing said message, click on the drop-down box below the message box and choose "Name/URL". You only need to type in your name (first, full, nickname, whatever) and go from there. I tested it out once and had to enter one of those cryptic codes so they know it's a real person and not a robot or hacker, and it posted. My friend, Amy, tried it out last week as my guinea pig (Thanks, Am!), but it didn't work for her... We realized she tried from her phone/iPad, and I have had trouble commenting on other blogs from my phone, so thinking if you are on an actual computer, it should work out bc it did when I signed out and tried it... So hopefully that option is now working and someone will try and have luck. (Sorry, I have to spell this out for my dad, who is not typically the most technologically advanced person... although he is lightyears ahead of where he was, because he can now locate the blog without my help!! haha, <3)
*We love getting feedback on here, so please feel free to comment on things, email us, etc. ( I'm linking Scott in here without even asking... so maybe I am alone on this, who knows.) I'm not saying you have to comment on everything, or anything, it's fine not to. Just letting you all know about the options out there. Even if it's once in a while so I know I'm not just speaking to a black hole. It's nice to get feedback and reassurance. So thanks for supporting us.
One tricky part of infertility is the cost.... The ridiculous cost of everything. For most couples, insurance covers nothing. Only certain plans cover it all, but most people aren't lucky enough to be in that boat. But even if they were, it doesn't guarantee it'll take one cycle. Blood work, semen analyses, procedures, drugs, you name it- it's all really damn expensive. Some couples have started donation pages, done fundraiser events/web sites, etc to try and help cover the cost of what's to come. We've tossed around the idea but personally don't like asking for things like that. We currently have enough saved up to cover one round of IVF when the time comes (hopefully in a few months!... fingers crossed), and if it takes more than that maybe we will change our minds (or I may start something on the side to make a few extra bucks to save up), but that's not why I'm posting. I don't like asking people for money for us, but I do like supporting worthy causes for others....
That's what this section is all about. One of those wonderful women I met on Instagram has started a donation site to help out infertile couples. Because this is such a worthy cause in my eyes, I would love if I helped to spread awareness for others to help the Infertility Fairy grant the wish of deserving couples everywhere. I'm not asking it to go to us, I'm asking for it to go to them. We have the luxury of having saved for one round... but many are struggling to just get to that point. Especially with the holidays coming, this is a great way to donate to a charitable cause. The founder of Infertility Fairy is a fellow TTC sister, but she has such a huge heart that not a penny is going towards her own journey. Everything she collects is going towards the journeys of others. Amazing. I love the idea of this, just donated myself last night, and wanted to share. Even if just one of you donates, I've done my job in spreading the word and helping a bit more.
The Infertility Fairy (click here!!)
Click above to check it out and donate if you can. There's 2 ways to donate... Straight donations, or you can shop for Origami Owl jewelry (for yourself or as gifts!) and the proceeds from that go towards donations. The choice is yours.
~*Black Friday Chaos*~
The life of a retail wife.... mostly not fun, in my opinion. For the majority of the year, Scott and I work opposite schedules. Me being a teacher, I work M-F and I can be home by 4 if I needed to. Weekends and holidays off, as well as summers. His days off? Weekdays, when I'm back to work, of course... and not always predictable days off. Just when you think it'll be every Tues/Wed and try to make plans, the schedule has changed again, throwing it all off course again. All of those times off are ALL of Scott's busy times. How ironic. With the exception of summer, when I'm always home when he is, it sucks. It's tough. This has been our life for years, though. Scott started working for Best Buy in 2001, right out of HS, so you'd think I would be used to this by now. In a way I am, and sometimes it's nice that we each have our own down time so that time together is usually nicer and more appreciated, but yet somehow it doesn't get easier each year.
This year is no different... possibly worse, thanks to Black Friday and crazy customer demands. I've never understood the Black Friday hype. Just my opinion, don't jump me for it, but on the retail wife side, I just don't get it. I am all about saving a few bucks and finding amazing deals, that part I get. I am a big fan of online shopping, though, and would rather shop from my laptop, while on the couch in PJs with music playing and sipping hot chocolate. I know Black Friday is all about money and helping the economy, and helping pay our mortgage and bills, so I'm thankful for all of that, really. I'm just complaining about the fact that stores open earlier and earlier each year. Each hour that a store opens longer than it's "normal, non-holiday hours" is another hour my husband is away from me, during "the happiest time of the year". We both LOVE Christmas and the holidays... but each year with the chaos of the holidays, it's beginning to make us sadder and sadder because it only means more time apart from each other.
This year, Best Buy joined the hundreds of stores opening on Thanksgiving. We escaped it in the past, they held strong at sticking to regular Black Friday openings... but I knew that the inevitable was coming. Sure enough, they announced last week that they are opening at 6pm on Thanksgiving day. WTF. I get it from a business POV, I do. You have to beat your competitors and open sooner to get an edge on making more money. So in that sense, good for them and I hope it pays off. The company is finally in a turn-around stage and they're doing better than they were say a year ago I think... but I'm still grouchy. I know I shouldn't complain because I am thankful Scott has a job, thankful he's healthy, thankful he's not on a military leave in another country like so many out there, but I am complaining on the side of "What happened to Thanksgiving and family time?". Just because the store opens at 6pm, doesn't mean the workers can get there at 5:55.... oh no no no, they will be there around 3 or 4pm to help prep for that opening shift. They also will be there the night before until midnight or later, cleaning and prepping for the chaos that always comes with Black Friday (err...I guess it's Black Thursday now??) prep.
I haven't even gotten to the best part, Scott's shift. They got schedules figured out the other day, and originally he was told he would be working a 15-hour split shift, meaning 15 hours total, but probably split into a 7-hour and 8-hour shift, with a sleep break somewhere in the middle... I felt bad for him with that, but actually that would have been a better deal. I did the math and he'll be working 22 hours in a 29-hour period. That will be two 11-hour shifts. 4pm-3am on Thanksgiving, and then back to work 10am-9pm on Friday. That's assuming he'll actually leave at those hours, which doesn't typically happen. A 7-hour sleep break in between, which really means probably 5 hours. We live 30 mins from the store, and I don't want a zombie on the road at 3am, so Scott & Dave (his "work hubby" as I call him, or his work BFF), will probably split a hotel room down the road and sleep there instead, to maximize on the sleep time. He is going to be utterly exhausted, and that's with everything going smoothly and not counting in the factors of grouchy, rude, inconsiderate customers acting a fool just so they can save a few bucks on the latest electronics accessories. And those customers who come in all pissed off, demanding to speak to a manager or demanding a refund or an answer as to why the TV in the ad is no longer in stock.
The holiday hours start this week. The 6-day work weeks for Scott start this week. The added stress started last week. Time away from Scott, stress on us, grouchy/cranky/tired Scott has already appeared. It's not even Thanksgiving yet and I already miss my husband. I won't really get him back until January when the holidays are over and everyone is back to work/school after holiday breaks, and the stores have gone back to a quiet calm. See you in 2 months, hun. Bah-humbug.
I came across this blog this morning while Googling fellow rants from retail wives... I give her credit for not complaining, she's better than me, and I will try to start being more thankful than grouchy on this subject.
Retail Spouse's View
If you are one of those active deal-seekers for holiday shopping, more power to you. I cannot handle fighting over parking spaces, grouchy people, long lines, and the stress of holiday shopping... But if you are one of those people, please remember that those retail workers are missing time away from their families to help make your shopping experience a good one. Treat them with respect and kindness. A smile and an appreciative "Thank you" or "have a nice day" can go a long way sometimes. Just remember they are there countless hours, and all those hours are times away from their families. If your precious items are not in stock, don't throw a fit. Shop earlier next time, look online, or ask for help nicely. Have a backup plan. Don't cause a scene, curse out an employee, or be a jerk. It doesn't help anything, ever. A little kindness and patience goes a long way.
~*Possible Side Job?*~
As mentioned above, Origami Owl is a jewelry company. The Infertility Fairy has a link to her shop, but it's one of my favorite jewelry companies as well. It's pretty new still, and many people have never heard of it, but it's been around for a few years already, and I personally love the idea of it. You know how Pandora brought back the charm bracelet trend a few years back? In a sense, Origami Owl reminds me of that because it's customizable jewelry that you choose based off your interests and what you hold closest to your heart. Their most popular/signature items are their Living Lockets, and the charms you put inside tell your story. Some people tell story with words, Origami Owl is all about sharing your story with your charms and your jewelry choices. I was hooked from the moment I opened the catalog at a home party last year that Alli brought me to. I bought a silver locket and inside is a word plate that says "Believe", along with 2 charms~ a butterfly and a star. In a nutshell, that's me. I could have chosen 20 charms I loved (no surprise there, Little Miss Indecisive here!), but in the name of saving money, I chose my fav 2. Butterflies have always been a fav of mine, and I love their symbolism. I love stars as well, and everything they stand for. Shine on, shine bright from within, sparkle, and make wishes on. Believe is one of my favorite words and I always have things I keep believing in to keep me going.
I've worn my locket proudly for a year (alternating with a fav heart necklace from Scott, too), and it's a great accessory, a great reminder of holding onto hope, and it's a great conversation piece. It's unique and people often ask about it. I love the company and all their products. I ran into a local seller of OO at our town's Community Day, back in August, and booked a party with her recently. I figured it was a good excuse to have the girls from work, fam, and close friends over for some down time and shopping. It's such a fun company that I feel really sells itself, and I've been toying with the idea (for a few months now) of joining the team and selling. I'm so wishy-washy though and get super shy around people sometimes, that fear of not doing well and failing has stopped me from pursuing it. Ironically, an old childhood friend at the party expressed interest in selling, too, so we have been thinking of it and may start together. I won't dare compete with my friend on Infertility Fairy, I will let her take all the Instagram sisters because hers is totally non-profit and all proceeds she would have earned goes straight to helping others. I figured since I don't want to ask for people to donate directly to us, I could work at this as a side job and whatever I make will go towards the Team Ricci Baby fund, either saving for future fertility treatments or saving for when our child finally arrives. If I'm working for it, I won't feel badly about it. I can make my own hours, sell online, do parties for family, friends, moms at school (hint, hint to see if Kym is reading! lol), and just see where it goes... oh yea, and have a great excuse to wear and model adorable jewelry along the way. Did I mention that the OO signature color is Tiffany blue... that's one of my absolute fav colors, and was our wedding theme color. Added bonus! Don't ask me why it's called Origami Owl... I have no idea. No, the products are not made out of paper and do not resemble origami. I'll have to research it. There's a start-up fee involved with becoming a seller and getting product to display, but I think in the end it could be a fun distraction for me, give me time to bond/reconnect with my childhood friend, and give me an outlet for meeting new people, becoming more independent, and just doing something different with my time for now. I think I just may give it a go. So if you're interested in buying, don't do it off the main site yet, perhaps wait until I've started and have set up an account ....Or in the meantime, buy through Infertility Fairy so some money goes to a great cause!
Lots of random things to post about today. I'll TRY to make them short and sweet (stop laughing because you know me all-too-well... At least the intention was there!) ha! :)
~*Love, Support, and Gratitude*~
First off, thank you to everyone who read Scott's blog post and showed some love and support. It was a big step for him and I'm very proud of him for writing and getting that all out. We laughed because his post had more hits on our blog than any of mine! Go, Scoot!! haha... show off. The second cool thing is that his post happened to be the 27th post on here and that's one of our all-time favorite numbers (because our dating anniversary is 2/7.... and I'm all about hidden messages and meanings in numbers with us). Pretty cool coincidence I thought. So again, thank you all for the support.
Second, some blog basics that I assumed everyone knew, but realize you probably don't.
*You can subscribe to our blog and receive email updates whenever we post something. As long as you're viewing this from a computer (or at least the web-version while on your phone/tablet), there's a button on the right-hand side somewhere (I'll try to make it more obvious and move it closer to the top) where you can simply enter your email address and you will automatically be linked to receive email notifications when new posts are up.
It essentially looks like this!!...
I'm starting to realize through different family members and friends that we have a lot of followers out there (I am EXTREMELY GRATEFUL to you ALL!! Thank you so so so SOOO much for taking the time to read anything on here, even if it's been one post and that's it. It truly means a lot to me/us.). It shocks me and fills my heart each time I realize someone has read this. I guess I assumed no one was interested in what we had to say, and I'd just be blabbing to the world wide web. That's fine and dandy too because I started this as an interactive journal anyway, with the thought that my mom would be the only one reading every word... Although she does do just that (thanks, Ma!), I really can't express how much it means when I hear that different cousins, family friends, or old college/childhood friends have been following, and I had no idea! Thank you so much, and love you all! More importantly, thank you for not judging. This journey has been (and still is) very difficult for us, and we may be approaching it differently than you would, but that's ok. That's what makes us all different and unique. I understand and respect that many people would not choose to share everything with the public, but for us this has worked so far and has helped me on so many emotional levels.
*You can leave comments on any post (I think!). When I re-designed the whole blog layout last week, I realized it was only previously open to those with Google/Blogger accounts to comment. Ooops! I changed it so now anyone can comment, no accounts or sign-ins required. If you have accounts with certain companies, it'll allow you to comment that way still... but for many of you that don't (a lot of my family), you can simply leave your comment at the end of any blog post. There's a link about comments that you can click on and leave a message. After typing said message, click on the drop-down box below the message box and choose "Name/URL". You only need to type in your name (first, full, nickname, whatever) and go from there. I tested it out once and had to enter one of those cryptic codes so they know it's a real person and not a robot or hacker, and it posted. My friend, Amy, tried it out last week as my guinea pig (Thanks, Am!), but it didn't work for her... We realized she tried from her phone/iPad, and I have had trouble commenting on other blogs from my phone, so thinking if you are on an actual computer, it should work out bc it did when I signed out and tried it... So hopefully that option is now working and someone will try and have luck. (Sorry, I have to spell this out for my dad, who is not typically the most technologically advanced person... although he is lightyears ahead of where he was, because he can now locate the blog without my help!! haha, <3)
*We love getting feedback on here, so please feel free to comment on things, email us, etc. ( I'm linking Scott in here without even asking... so maybe I am alone on this, who knows.) I'm not saying you have to comment on everything, or anything, it's fine not to. Just letting you all know about the options out there. Even if it's once in a while so I know I'm not just speaking to a black hole. It's nice to get feedback and reassurance. So thanks for supporting us.
~*Helping Others Build a Family*~
As I've mentioned on here before, I have been so blessed to have met so many amazing women on the social media app Instagram. So many amazing women who are on their own journeys through infertility. Some lucky enough to reach the other side with babies, some well on their way into healthy pregnancies, and many who are still trying. Many have miscarried, have struggled with failed IUI or IVF attempts, and many are in the waiting stage to start treatments (like us). Still others can't even do anything because the costs are just so astronomical or unattainable. Others are on waiting lists for adoption. We're all different, we all have different experiences, we all have different paths, different diagnoses, we all live in different places... but we all want to be parents. So in that common bond, our journey is the same.
One tricky part of infertility is the cost.... The ridiculous cost of everything. For most couples, insurance covers nothing. Only certain plans cover it all, but most people aren't lucky enough to be in that boat. But even if they were, it doesn't guarantee it'll take one cycle. Blood work, semen analyses, procedures, drugs, you name it- it's all really damn expensive. Some couples have started donation pages, done fundraiser events/web sites, etc to try and help cover the cost of what's to come. We've tossed around the idea but personally don't like asking for things like that. We currently have enough saved up to cover one round of IVF when the time comes (hopefully in a few months!... fingers crossed), and if it takes more than that maybe we will change our minds (or I may start something on the side to make a few extra bucks to save up), but that's not why I'm posting. I don't like asking people for money for us, but I do like supporting worthy causes for others....
That's what this section is all about. One of those wonderful women I met on Instagram has started a donation site to help out infertile couples. Because this is such a worthy cause in my eyes, I would love if I helped to spread awareness for others to help the Infertility Fairy grant the wish of deserving couples everywhere. I'm not asking it to go to us, I'm asking for it to go to them. We have the luxury of having saved for one round... but many are struggling to just get to that point. Especially with the holidays coming, this is a great way to donate to a charitable cause. The founder of Infertility Fairy is a fellow TTC sister, but she has such a huge heart that not a penny is going towards her own journey. Everything she collects is going towards the journeys of others. Amazing. I love the idea of this, just donated myself last night, and wanted to share. Even if just one of you donates, I've done my job in spreading the word and helping a bit more.
The Infertility Fairy (click here!!)
Click above to check it out and donate if you can. There's 2 ways to donate... Straight donations, or you can shop for Origami Owl jewelry (for yourself or as gifts!) and the proceeds from that go towards donations. The choice is yours.
~*Black Friday Chaos*~
The life of a retail wife.... mostly not fun, in my opinion. For the majority of the year, Scott and I work opposite schedules. Me being a teacher, I work M-F and I can be home by 4 if I needed to. Weekends and holidays off, as well as summers. His days off? Weekdays, when I'm back to work, of course... and not always predictable days off. Just when you think it'll be every Tues/Wed and try to make plans, the schedule has changed again, throwing it all off course again. All of those times off are ALL of Scott's busy times. How ironic. With the exception of summer, when I'm always home when he is, it sucks. It's tough. This has been our life for years, though. Scott started working for Best Buy in 2001, right out of HS, so you'd think I would be used to this by now. In a way I am, and sometimes it's nice that we each have our own down time so that time together is usually nicer and more appreciated, but yet somehow it doesn't get easier each year.
This year is no different... possibly worse, thanks to Black Friday and crazy customer demands. I've never understood the Black Friday hype. Just my opinion, don't jump me for it, but on the retail wife side, I just don't get it. I am all about saving a few bucks and finding amazing deals, that part I get. I am a big fan of online shopping, though, and would rather shop from my laptop, while on the couch in PJs with music playing and sipping hot chocolate. I know Black Friday is all about money and helping the economy, and helping pay our mortgage and bills, so I'm thankful for all of that, really. I'm just complaining about the fact that stores open earlier and earlier each year. Each hour that a store opens longer than it's "normal, non-holiday hours" is another hour my husband is away from me, during "the happiest time of the year". We both LOVE Christmas and the holidays... but each year with the chaos of the holidays, it's beginning to make us sadder and sadder because it only means more time apart from each other.
This year, Best Buy joined the hundreds of stores opening on Thanksgiving. We escaped it in the past, they held strong at sticking to regular Black Friday openings... but I knew that the inevitable was coming. Sure enough, they announced last week that they are opening at 6pm on Thanksgiving day. WTF. I get it from a business POV, I do. You have to beat your competitors and open sooner to get an edge on making more money. So in that sense, good for them and I hope it pays off. The company is finally in a turn-around stage and they're doing better than they were say a year ago I think... but I'm still grouchy. I know I shouldn't complain because I am thankful Scott has a job, thankful he's healthy, thankful he's not on a military leave in another country like so many out there, but I am complaining on the side of "What happened to Thanksgiving and family time?". Just because the store opens at 6pm, doesn't mean the workers can get there at 5:55.... oh no no no, they will be there around 3 or 4pm to help prep for that opening shift. They also will be there the night before until midnight or later, cleaning and prepping for the chaos that always comes with Black Friday (err...I guess it's Black Thursday now??) prep.
I haven't even gotten to the best part, Scott's shift. They got schedules figured out the other day, and originally he was told he would be working a 15-hour split shift, meaning 15 hours total, but probably split into a 7-hour and 8-hour shift, with a sleep break somewhere in the middle... I felt bad for him with that, but actually that would have been a better deal. I did the math and he'll be working 22 hours in a 29-hour period. That will be two 11-hour shifts. 4pm-3am on Thanksgiving, and then back to work 10am-9pm on Friday. That's assuming he'll actually leave at those hours, which doesn't typically happen. A 7-hour sleep break in between, which really means probably 5 hours. We live 30 mins from the store, and I don't want a zombie on the road at 3am, so Scott & Dave (his "work hubby" as I call him, or his work BFF), will probably split a hotel room down the road and sleep there instead, to maximize on the sleep time. He is going to be utterly exhausted, and that's with everything going smoothly and not counting in the factors of grouchy, rude, inconsiderate customers acting a fool just so they can save a few bucks on the latest electronics accessories. And those customers who come in all pissed off, demanding to speak to a manager or demanding a refund or an answer as to why the TV in the ad is no longer in stock.
The holiday hours start this week. The 6-day work weeks for Scott start this week. The added stress started last week. Time away from Scott, stress on us, grouchy/cranky/tired Scott has already appeared. It's not even Thanksgiving yet and I already miss my husband. I won't really get him back until January when the holidays are over and everyone is back to work/school after holiday breaks, and the stores have gone back to a quiet calm. See you in 2 months, hun. Bah-humbug.
I came across this blog this morning while Googling fellow rants from retail wives... I give her credit for not complaining, she's better than me, and I will try to start being more thankful than grouchy on this subject.
Retail Spouse's View
If you are one of those active deal-seekers for holiday shopping, more power to you. I cannot handle fighting over parking spaces, grouchy people, long lines, and the stress of holiday shopping... But if you are one of those people, please remember that those retail workers are missing time away from their families to help make your shopping experience a good one. Treat them with respect and kindness. A smile and an appreciative "Thank you" or "have a nice day" can go a long way sometimes. Just remember they are there countless hours, and all those hours are times away from their families. If your precious items are not in stock, don't throw a fit. Shop earlier next time, look online, or ask for help nicely. Have a backup plan. Don't cause a scene, curse out an employee, or be a jerk. It doesn't help anything, ever. A little kindness and patience goes a long way.
~*Possible Side Job?*~
As mentioned above, Origami Owl is a jewelry company. The Infertility Fairy has a link to her shop, but it's one of my favorite jewelry companies as well. It's pretty new still, and many people have never heard of it, but it's been around for a few years already, and I personally love the idea of it. You know how Pandora brought back the charm bracelet trend a few years back? In a sense, Origami Owl reminds me of that because it's customizable jewelry that you choose based off your interests and what you hold closest to your heart. Their most popular/signature items are their Living Lockets, and the charms you put inside tell your story. Some people tell story with words, Origami Owl is all about sharing your story with your charms and your jewelry choices. I was hooked from the moment I opened the catalog at a home party last year that Alli brought me to. I bought a silver locket and inside is a word plate that says "Believe", along with 2 charms~ a butterfly and a star. In a nutshell, that's me. I could have chosen 20 charms I loved (no surprise there, Little Miss Indecisive here!), but in the name of saving money, I chose my fav 2. Butterflies have always been a fav of mine, and I love their symbolism. I love stars as well, and everything they stand for. Shine on, shine bright from within, sparkle, and make wishes on. Believe is one of my favorite words and I always have things I keep believing in to keep me going.
I've worn my locket proudly for a year (alternating with a fav heart necklace from Scott, too), and it's a great accessory, a great reminder of holding onto hope, and it's a great conversation piece. It's unique and people often ask about it. I love the company and all their products. I ran into a local seller of OO at our town's Community Day, back in August, and booked a party with her recently. I figured it was a good excuse to have the girls from work, fam, and close friends over for some down time and shopping. It's such a fun company that I feel really sells itself, and I've been toying with the idea (for a few months now) of joining the team and selling. I'm so wishy-washy though and get super shy around people sometimes, that fear of not doing well and failing has stopped me from pursuing it. Ironically, an old childhood friend at the party expressed interest in selling, too, so we have been thinking of it and may start together. I won't dare compete with my friend on Infertility Fairy, I will let her take all the Instagram sisters because hers is totally non-profit and all proceeds she would have earned goes straight to helping others. I figured since I don't want to ask for people to donate directly to us, I could work at this as a side job and whatever I make will go towards the Team Ricci Baby fund, either saving for future fertility treatments or saving for when our child finally arrives. If I'm working for it, I won't feel badly about it. I can make my own hours, sell online, do parties for family, friends, moms at school (hint, hint to see if Kym is reading! lol), and just see where it goes... oh yea, and have a great excuse to wear and model adorable jewelry along the way. Did I mention that the OO signature color is Tiffany blue... that's one of my absolute fav colors, and was our wedding theme color. Added bonus! Don't ask me why it's called Origami Owl... I have no idea. No, the products are not made out of paper and do not resemble origami. I'll have to research it. There's a start-up fee involved with becoming a seller and getting product to display, but I think in the end it could be a fun distraction for me, give me time to bond/reconnect with my childhood friend, and give me an outlet for meeting new people, becoming more independent, and just doing something different with my time for now. I think I just may give it a go. So if you're interested in buying, don't do it off the main site yet, perhaps wait until I've started and have set up an account ....Or in the meantime, buy through Infertility Fairy so some money goes to a great cause!
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| Collage put together by me ;) See, I could totally design! |
As always, thanks for reading and supporting us on this journey!
xoxo <3
xoxo <3
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